Single and not ready to mingle? Well, then it might be quite difficult if you are a woman over the age of 30. Our Indian society is not very friendly with “unmarried” women over that age!
A day in the life of a 30+ Indian woman – start the day with a heavy breakfast of proposals from all over the world, a mid-morning snack of some taunts, lunch with a huge portion of doubts on sexual orientation, an evening snack of emotional blackmailing, light dinner with some labelling and perhaps a sweet dish of tears.
Raised eyebrows, side glances and hushed talk – all of which a single woman who has crossed “the marriageable age” in India is quite familiar with.
So what is the big deal? So what if a woman isn’t married or even so, not thinking of getting married at 30? She still does have it all – a job, friends, family, perhaps even a house of her own. Is that all invalid?
If men aren’t married at so called marriageable age, do people portray the same kind of displeasure? Or for that matter do we give a second look to a man who has ventured out to eat alone or even watch a movie alone? But somehow when a man is replaced by a woman, perceptions change. And that’s when we know that gender equality is still only a dream.
Women who have younger siblings who are ready to get married are faced with questions like – Will you be ok? How will you get married later then? Will someone agree to get married to you? This not only puts them in a tough spot, it doesn’t let them rejoice and celebrate their own sibling’s big event!
I wish it was as funny as it sounds, but unfortunately this is the harsh reality for women in India who are striving hard to be independent, to live life on their own terms and to make their own rules and regulations. However, the society still believes that women are born to only follow rules and not make them.
Having said that, it’s refreshing to see women get past all of these obstacles and show the world what identity is all about. Identity is not about getting married and having kids, or about changing your name and taking another family’s name, and certainly not about giving up your dreams and ambitions for the sake of tying the knot. True identity is finding your own path for life and identifying one’s passion and pursuing the same. So, women – Claim your space! Get out there, and live life “queen” size. With a husband or without. With kids or without. With a job or without. It’s all really about you! What are you waiting for?
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