Taboo no more!

Taboo, taboo taboo! We like to label everything we don’t want to deal with as taboo. And one such topic is counselling. The idea of “pulling themselves together” is still so strange to people. People wait to be rescued, but the point is to rescue oneself! The social stigma and the sense of shame attached with counselling prohibit people from actually understanding counselling.

 Let’s keep it simple. You have fever or you are down with flu, what would you do? Worry about it? Hide it from everyone around you? Try to look it up on Google and figure out a solution? Let it bother you all week? None of those right? You would immediately walk to your family doctor and grab some medicines. So simple! Now run the same set of questions in your mind when it comes to stress, anxiety or depression. We all know the result, don’t we?

 So trying to understand why this taboo exists in our country is futile. What’s essential now is to get past it and understand why counselling is a necessity! It’s not solely something for the ‘misbehaving’ children, not meant for the ‘depressed’ lot and certainly not a last resort. Counselling is a gradual process of strengthening oneself, being mindful and enhancing quality of relationships through self-awareness.

 The society we live in is full of stress, anxiety and rage. We can’t possibly run away from it, but we can prepare ourselves to deal with it efficiently and not let it get in the way of our happiness. Be it marriage, or child-related issues; work-life problems or personal insecurities; anything can be dealt with. There is a solution and people just need to learn to ask for help. Asking leads to finding responses and talking leads to resolving. But ultimately, the step has to be taken by us.

 Counselling is not an overnight process and requires commitment and dedication, but is that too much to ask for when the only one benefitting from this is you? We all need someone to talk to, someone who could listen to us unconditionally and someone who would advise but yet help us find our own paths in the journey of life. Hardships can’t be avoided, but we sure can develop the skill to handle them and emerge victorious.

 As the late pioneer American social worker Virginia satir had stated – the problem is never the problem; coping is! The art of learning to cope leads us to a more enriching and fulfilling life. The sooner you develop this art, the more grateful you’ll be; to yourself!

 The blog is based on the following article –

http://www.straitstimes.com/forum/letters-in-print/counselling-a-necessity-not-a-taboo

 

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A new year = A new you!

As each year passes by, people reminisce the months gone by and set out for a new adventure that the New Year has to offer. Most likely, you will see people around you making resolutions to stay fit, exercise and eat healthy. While that’s great, what’s worrying is the lack of focus on mental health. With a package of diets, gyms and jogs versus one of high self-esteem, happiness and confidence; the latter seems to lose year after year. Things would be simpler if people realized the two were inter-connected and if people made an effort to target mental health, physical health would come trotting behind.

If counsellors and psychotherapists were visited as often as gym trainers and nutritionists, the world would be not just a fitter, but a happier place too. Mental health is central to every part of our lives; the people around us, our work and our emotions. And this year, strive to achieve better mental health, and these tips may help you:

 – Stop dieting and eat healthy  – It’s not about a diet, it’s about a lifestyle. A diet leads to cravings, higher levels of frustration and typically doesn’t result in permanent weight loss. The more you focus on a diet, the more it displays lack of confidence and poor body image issues which subsequently lead to depression low self esteem. It’s important to understand that the connection between healthy eating and a happier self is strong

  • Join a group and give up your screens – Social isolation is believed to be as injurious to health as smoking. With social media paving a path for people to stay put behind their screens and avoid people, actual interaction between people is becoming rare, thereby leading to loneliness, depression and anxiety. Share experiences with people, not with Facebook; share meals with friends, not photos of the same on Instagram and most importantly share your lives with people around you!
  • Exercise – If physical health depends on mental health, then it works vice versa too. You need to move your body to keep your mind active. Happiness is the goal and if endorphins (the little happy hormones released during exercise) help you get there, why not try it?
  • Seek help – And of course, lastly and if one may say so, most importantly, seek help! Only those who ask for help get it and only those who try to resolve problems succeed. If we rush to a doctor when we sneeze, then why do we hesitate to do so when we are feeling low mentally? Talking leads to resolving and seeking help leads to finding it.

These are really simple ways of leading a happy, stress-free and healthy life. It’s time we take to these measures before we are left with no choice but to look at more complicated ones! Let’s make this year a year to count in every little way possible. And remember, mental and physical health are two sides of the same coin; the coin being you! To a new year and a new you!

This blog is based on the article –
The best New Year’s resolutions focus on mental health, not physical health